We interviewed Mona Wolf (they/she), 25-year-old upscale companion and professional dominatrix based in Dallas, TX. They have been working in the industry for four years, and adds “I’ve been through the gamut within the industry and it all started with cam modeling.” On the rare occasion when Mona feels unsure about outing their self as a sex worker, they explain: “I tell them I’m a sexuality and intimacy consultant. This is because I am in a program to become one that is certified.”

Mona Wolf’s preferred platforms are P411, Tryst, and their personal websites.

Mona Wolf: Upscale Companion & Professional Dominatrix

Talk to me about the early days and learning how to run your business. What was your biggest challenge getting started in this industry?

There is no Sex Work University, so when you’re starting, you’re going in with eyes closed.

Like I said, when I first started it was cam modeling, but even then, I wasn’t as successful as I could have been had I developed a character that people found fascinating. It eventually formed but soon after I got into sugaring. Sugaring has been my least favorite type of SW mostly because the men try to squeeze out as much time as they can for your flat rate. I thought I was bringing in good money, but there was still a lot of potential I wasn’t quite hitting. Next, I stepped into a Dominatrix position and walked away from the sugaring field. Being dominant with men in the bedroom was something that I wanted to learn how to be better at, and it turns out I was a natural. Finally, I went back to full-service, except this time I decided to charge hourly.

At the beginning, my vetting procedures were absolute garbage. If it wasn’t for my SW community, I wouldn’t have all the resources I do today.

What would you say has been the secret to your success?

It’s no secret that I’m privileged with being white, afab (assigned female at birth), educated, and that I come from a middle-class SES. That has elevated my success to lengths that I’ll never fully understand; it’s something that I am aware of though. Other than that,

My tight-knit scheduling, systematic vetting process, my career, my podcast, being face-forward… all of these things add to the success of my business.

Mona Wolf: Upscale Companion & Professional Dominatrix

How has working in porn changed you as a person or affected the way you see yourself?

Working as a FSSW and Dominatrix has done a lot for me, and a lot to me. Aspects of my character that weren’t there before consist of:

  1. Body confidence
  2. Awareness of sexual health
  3. The ability to set strong boundaries
  4. Stepping into my entrepreneur self
  5. Gave me the opportunity to invest in myself educationally

Some effects that SW has had on me:

  1. Altering my perception and ability to receive touch
  2. Less casual sex and the desire for more emotional connection
  3. Coming off blunt and transparent with most of the general public about my lifestyle
  4. Being unsure of how my SW is going to affect my future career
  5. A rise in skepticism when going on dates with new people

How has your work affected your daily life and relationships with family and friends?

It was hard for my family to hear it.

Eventually, they came around and we are on talking terms, it’s just hard to ask me questions about my life.

Friends are either fully supportive or ask me a million questions on how they can get started without even thinking about the emotional labor it cost me to get to where I’m at.

Mona Wolf: Upscale Companion & Professional Dominatrix

How has your work affected your view of society or perspective of porn in the context of the world today?

People thrive off of physical connection but are so terrified to speak about it.

We’ve been suppressed for so long that we operate in the shadows about something that is supposed to feel good, but instead we feel shame.

What do you think is the most important issue facing the industry today? What can we do?

I think it goes deeper than just within the industry, but my answer to this is rampant misogyny. Getting to the root of the misogyny and making it extinct one human at a time is going to do a lot for the rights of LGBTQI+ and women, racial justice, equal access to resources, and personal autonomy.

What are your thoughts about the future and continuing evolution of the adult entertainment industry?

I see it expanding everyday, even within the research community. My only hope is that steam continues to build and we get more coverage and rights to be able to live the lives we feel are appropriate to support ourselves however that may look.

What do you wish you’d known about the adult entertainment industry before you took the plunge?

I wish I’d known… how emotionally taxing it would be.

What is the most important piece of advice you would offer someone just getting started in the industry?

Seek out communities of SWs before anything and start connecting, and do your research on the industry.

Our society has a lot of opinions about sex work. Tell us something about your work that would surprise the lay person who doesn’t know better.

There are a lot of SWs who create personas to get through their work, but what a lot of people don’t know is that there are a lot of SWs who don’t. They might add a little pep in their voice but for the most part, they stay real. That kind of real attitude is attractive to a lot of clients, and creating a whole persona and acting it out half the time is extremely exhausting and sometimes unnecessary.

Have any stories to share?

I don’t have any crazy stories to be quite honest; I just do the vetting process and get my work done with respectful clients.

  1. An undercover cop called me and I didn’t know until I did the screening on them.
  2. I had a really fun time organizing an all femme gangbang with 6 femme tops and one male client. I even made t-shirts for the occasion.
  3. I’ve fucked doctors, lawyers, sales managers, and college students. There’s not exact demographic that reaches out to SWs; clients come from a variety of backgrounds just as SWs do.
Mona Wolf: Upscale Companion & Professional Dominatrix

What are you working on next?

I’m working towards becoming a Certified Sexuality and Intimacy Consultant, in tandem with my BS in ABA Psychology.

https://wolfdomination.com
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2 Replies to “Mona Wolf: Upscale Companion & Professional Dominatrix”

  1. Always love reading your interviews, Ray, Mona seems so down to earth and relaxed. The second I set up my cam profile anxiety started to kick in and I paused this whole gig for a bit. Now I feel more motivated than ever to jump in the game and give it a go.

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