We interviewed Lila Vega, 35 year old webcam model based in Indiana. She has been working in the online adult industry for the past 1.5 years and has graciously agreed to answer some questions about her experience.
Question: “Let’s talk about the early days and learning how to run your business. What were some of your biggest challenges?”
Lila: “I started on Streamate. My biggest challenge was not starting slowly. When I started I was immediately down for almost anything. After working for a while I decided to move toward mainly fetish work. It took me a while to build my base back up as most of my regular clients liked the standard routine of mutual masturbation or toy play.
It would have been a better choice for me to be a little more reserved in the beginning and let myself fall into the persona I wanted.”
Question: “Can you identify any ideas you once held about the adult industry, and how your own work has changed or affected these?”
Lila: “I’ve always been a fan of the adult industry. I have a good friend that has been a cam model for quite sometime. She does femdom and I thought I would be doing the same thing she does. I do in some ways but we are still very different.
Before I started camming I didn’t realize how cutthroat the industry can be. It can be super competitive.”
Question: “How has your work in the adult industry changed you as a person or affected your personality?”
Lila: “I have always been open-minded, but working in the adult industry has expanded that tremendously. Now I have dealt with almost every type of client and kink. I’ve learned so much and I’m more understanding of things than I ever thought I would be.
It has also opened me to exploring my own kinks that I never considered before.”
Question: “How has your work changed or affected your personal relationships with family and friends?”
Lila: “This hasn’t really affected my personal relationships. I have always had very accepting and open-minded friends.
My family members that know what I do are really supportive.”
Question: “What do you love and hate about your choice of occupation?”
“I love getting to know my clients and exploring their preferences. Diving into the psychology of what they like and why they might like it is the best part.
There are certain types of guys I can’t stand. Time wasters, freeloaders, and those that think they can treat us like garbage and still get what they want.”
Question: “Our society has a lot opinions about sex work. Tell us something about you or your work that would surprise someone who doesn’t know better.”
Lila: “I think a lot of people think what I do is all about sex. For the client, yes most of the time. For me, rarely is it about sex. Having mostly fetish clients, most of the time I don’t even do sexual things to myself.
I also think people see what I do as impersonal. It’s actually the exact opposite most of the time.
I see a side of people they don’t even show their significant others. It can be very intimate.”
Question: “Every sex worker has stories. Share one!”
Lila: “I have so many stories haha. It’s hard to choose which one to tell. I’ll tell one of the most fun sessions I’ve ever had.
I have a lovely regular with an inflation fetish. He really enjoys elaborate dialogue and even some acting. In one of our sessions I was to be a witch with a plan to fill myself and get bigger and bigger until I burst like a balloon. The entire time I was up moving around and acting things out. At the end, when I popped, I jumped up and threw myself back onto my bed! It was the best session ever!”
Question: “What do you think is the most important piece of wisdom you could possibly impart on someone just getting started in the industry?”
“I would suggest starting in the direction you want to move into and gradually increase or alter what you offer.
I would also tell someone just starting out to use the resources. Find online communities to ask questions. Don’t ever feel like you’re the only one who has ever had questions or was uncertain about things in this industry. We’ve all been new at some point.”
Final Question: Where can folks connect with Lila Vega?
Instagram – SexyLilaVega
Reddit – u/SexyLilaVega