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How to Become a Phone Sex Operator: Quick Startup Guide

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How does one become a phone sex operator?

The short answer is to just make listings on Talktome and Niteflirt, then wait for the first few calls to come in and go from there based on what you learn. It’ll be slow starting out but if you’re consistent with being logged on it will eventually pick up. Before you know it you’ll be raking in the dough as a real live phone sex operator. But like, you should be prepared for some weird fucking shit and know your limits and boundaries before even taking the first call. I feel like this is something I should be writing about in detail…

So here’s the long answer.

Things you’ll need:

  • Camera
  • Phone
  • You

The first thing you’ll need are some good quality images to go with any listings you put up.

It’s really important that you do use your own images. A lot of people are scared about privacy here, which is understandable in this day and age. Nothing says you can’t put on a cute wig or even a mask, be creative with your makeup and wardrobe, and put together a persona based on the part of yourself that you want to portray and share. The fact is, your image is often the first thing a potential caller is going to see. This is your chance to connect.

Have some fun with this step. Put some thought into how you’d like to present yourself and engage with callers and customers. You can crank it up if you want to but don’t venture too far from reality. The easiest person to be in the long run is your self.

While you’re at it decide what you’d like them to call you.

Picking the right name is a whole other conversation we’ll definitely be having soon. Put some thought into it, and pick something easy to remember that feels good to you.

Now you’re ready to choose a couple of phone sex sites to list your services on.

I’m gonna stick with the ones who handle all your transactions and route calls for you.

I recommend Talktome.com and Niteflirt.com.

These sites do take a percentage of what callers pay out in exchange for the use of their platform. It can seem like a lot (it is.) but in my opinion they really do offer quite a lot of value in terms of easy transactions, customer management and even marketing and other tools. Payment processing is notoriously inaccessible to the online sex industry with most popular tools like PayPal and CashApp being rather adult-unfriendly.

Independent operators can feel free to chime in with any thoughts on their own experience, but third-party sites are where I’m most comfortable.

Talktome and Niteflirt are both good and reliable, and you can work them at the same time to maximize your call volume.

Payouts are sent out regularly and each site has its own options ranging from a check in the mail to direct deposit.

If you’re just starting out it can be a good idea to explore your phone personality with different kinds of listings.

Talktome lets you have three listings up at a time, which may or may not be remotely related to one another. Niteflirt allows multiple listings in various categories, all neatly displayed on your main profile. So if you want to be discreet about your science, use Talktome.

Both Talktome and Niteflirt also offer opportunity to make more money by selling photos and video content.

You can set up “galleries” on TTM and “goody bags” on NF. Sometimes people will buy your content before talking to you, and when they love it they’ll call in. Others will talk to you endlessly and may or may not even look at your other content. But some will. And it’ll keep things interesting if you get into the habit of posting new content for your future fans to enjoy.

Expect it to be slow starting out, but try to keep a regular schedule anyway.

It doesn’t have to be a lot. Making yourself available with some consistency is the first step to growing your fan base of loyal callers. If you’re still working a vanilla job, becoming a phone sex operator could be the perfect evening and weekend side gig.

Try to avoid peanut butter before answering the phone, and make sure to drink lots of water.

Many calls will be quick and that’s to be expected, but sometimes you’ll be on the phone for a while and you’ll want to have taken care of your physical needs first.

Once you start to see some growth, invest in your new business and pick up a hands-free headset like the one I use. It’s made worlds of difference in how much energy I’m spending talking. And if you’re not already, you should consider using a landline for the best reception.

What’s it like to be a phone sex operator?

I’ve been working in the online sex industry since 2013. During the last couple of years, phone sex has become one of my preferred and more profitable outlets. I enjoy the challenge of connecting one-on-one with all kinds of people from various backgrounds and with a wide range of interests, many of which are sexual in nature. I never know quite what to expect!

You should be prepared to hear from every kind of person, and to communicate with them as such. Whether your role is submissive, dominant, or just a lonely housewife – callers are people, and you are people. Let’s connect first and foremost as people. They like that. 😉

Then you get to the fun stuff. Fantasies and role plays, deep twisted conversations about Star Trek, and the occasional tidbit that makes you go “ew.”

Keep the details of your personal life private, but do communicate openly with your callers.

If you’re new to the world of fetish, becoming a phone sex operator will be an educational experience. You should know and be confident in your own boundaries and limits before you even answer the first call. But beyond that, always know that it is totally fine to tell the caller if you’re uncomfortable, or to hang up if you need to. I’ve had people try to really get in my head at times, and I’ve had to learn to assert myself in those situations.

If someone makes you uncomfortable and isn’t receptive to communication, it’s perfectly reasonable to take care of yourself by blocking them.

As a phone sex operator, you make the rules.

Just be sure to also abide by the rules of the site you’re working on.

Oh, also unsolicited dick pics are going to happen. I’d recommend a no-tolerance policy toward this kind of behaviour, but everyone has their own way of managing their business. Do what makes you happiest.

In the end, I love my job.

I get to talk with a lot of interesting and cool people from all over the world, and I get a glimpse into a side of humanity that’s closed off so much of the time. It’s really an honour and a privilege doing what I do. It’s certainly not for everyone, but I would definitely recommend giving it a shot if you feel it’s something you’d like to explore.

I hope this is a fairly comprehensive introduction. Feel free to ask any questions I haven’t addressed. I’ll be happy to answer any comments as best I can. Thanks for being here!

-Ray

2 thoughts on “How to Become a Phone Sex Operator: Quick Startup Guide

  1. I’ve been considering this and your tips are so helpful! The only thing I’m worried about is if someone isn’t happy with my service halfway through. What’s the best way to handle that situation?

    1. If someone isn’t happy they should communicate that in some way. It’s possible they just hang up, it happens all the time. In cases like that, I send a quick note “apologizing” for the dropped call. And take that opportunity to ask how they’re enjoying the call, if they’d like to try anything different, etc. Most times folks just want someone to be honest and enjoy the time you spend together, however it unfolds. Open communication, always. Hope that helps!

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