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Webcam Modeling: On Fake Personalities

The personality we think is key…

When I first started researching what it would take to succeed as a webcam model I came across a lot of advice that said personality is key, said you have to be outgoing, said you have to be bubbly and enthusiastic. I got the impression that there’s a particular type of personality that is kind of expected in this industry.

I’m an introvert. I don’t fit into that bubbly, outgoing box. I’m not particularly friendly. I’ve never been particularly fond of people, frankly. I think a lot of people are dumb.

So when I first started I kind of had this idea that I had to crank up the volume on myself in order to keep people’s interest, in order to seduce people. And for years I wore makeup*, did the lingerie thing, mastered various poses and facial expressions. I don’t do all that anymore, because it’s not me.

…might negatively affect your long term mental health.

Years of trying to make myself fit my idea of someone else’s expectation of me led to burnout, led to severe mental illness, depression, anxiety. I was unable to work at all for an extended period of time.

Fortunately because of the industry I work in and the flexibility therein, I was able to keep going. I was able to re-brand and start over – a couple of times actually.

I think I finally figured it out.

YOUR personality is the key to your success.

I think it’s too often overlooked in this industry that YOUR personality is crucial to your success. You are unique. Your perception of your world is something that you can’t fake. You don’t need to make your personality better. You don’t have to fit somebody else’s idea of what a webcam model is.

What I’m trying to say is that there’s a market for your personality – there’s a market for every personality. And the only way you’re gonna corner that market is by being unabashedly you.

And the only person that can be you… is you.

*If the makeup and lingerie stuff is your jam, by all means – I only mean to say it’s not for me.

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  1. i 1000% agree w/ this article. As an introvert w/ anxiety who’s naturally shy myself, I knew there was no way I was going to be able to put on the typical “model persona” and be believable or like what I was doing for that matter. I’ve found the freedom of expression in this line of work is just that, freedom. To be exactly how you are or to be the exact opposite. Different strokes for different folks and I’m so glad I found that there is
    a different ‘personality niche’ for everyone, as well- that doesn’t have anything really to do with sexuality. Great article, Glad I found this site!

  2. As a black woman on cam, the make up and lingerie is the only way my cam customers will talk to me.

    I can not log on looking like my everyday chill. Apparently my everyday chill has a constant resting bitch face and I’m actually kind of fun.

    The kind of fun girl that I am does not show up on camera I have to animate it and to do that on camera it means hair, some make up, and lingerie and selective toy collection.

    My niche for cam only automatically assumes I act like the other women of color in my niche, of Spanish speaking or African. They all have hair done, make up and lingerie because that majority category work in studios and they are trained by the studios to be hair done, make up and select toys placed around the room

    so I want to keep up working on sites that list women of color I have to blend in with the other women that look like me

    1. Hey Minnie, thanks very much for sharing your perspective on this! From a business standpoint this makes a lot of sense, and I certainly don’t mean to dissuade folks from putting in effort to look approachable and fun. Though I question the reality of needing to blend in rather than stand out from other women who look like you. I was mostly talking about personality here, and the fact so many people come into the industry with warped ideas about how they need to act on cam. Anyway, great points and thanks for contributing to the conversation.

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