The personality we think is key…
When I first started researching what it would take to succeed as a webcam model I came across a lot of advice that said personality is key, said you have to be outgoing, said you have to be bubbly and enthusiastic. I got the impression that there’s a particular type of personality that is kind of expected in this industry.
I’m an introvert. I don’t fit into that bubbly, outgoing box. I’m not particularly friendly. I’ve never been particularly fond of people, frankly. I think a lot of people are dumb.
So when I first started I kind of had this idea that I had to crank up the volume on myself in order to keep people’s interest, in order to seduce people. And for years I wore makeup*, did the lingerie thing, mastered various poses and facial expressions. I don’t do all that anymore, because it’s not me.
…might negatively affect your long term mental health.
Years of trying to make myself fit my idea of someone else’s expectation of me led to burnout, led to severe mental illness, depression, anxiety. I was unable to work at all for an extended period of time.
Fortunately because of the industry I work in and the flexibility therein, I was able to keep going. I was able to re-brand and start over – a couple of times actually.
I think I finally figured it out.
YOUR personality is the key to your success.
I think it’s too often overlooked in this industry that YOUR personality is crucial to your success. You are unique. Your perception of your world is something that you can’t fake. You don’t need to make your personality better. You don’t have to fit somebody else’s idea of what a webcam model is.
What I’m trying to say is that there’s a market for your personality – there’s a market for every personality. And the only way you’re gonna corner that market is by being unabashedly you.
And the only person that can be you… is you.
*If the makeup and lingerie stuff is your jam, by all means – I only mean to say it’s not for me.